As a woman with an entire pre-college education in Catholic schools, any and all sex-positive documentaries, podcasts, and more have been a sign to me in my adult life. my city. I appreciate the Catholic school environment very much, but lifting the veil of shame around certain behaviors, especially sexual acts, is a valuable personal process, an advocate supports the idea that sexual health is more than just avoiding illness and unwanted pregnancy. . It also recognizes that sex should be an important and beneficial part of life. But for all the great stories that regular sex can cut cortisol levels, improve sleep, ease pain, and improve immunity, I still sometimes wonder about the impact. of regular rest — aka the dreaded “dry spell.” So it’s refreshing to stumble across this Good + Good article that just mentions: “Here’s What Happens To Your Body When You Stop Having Sex”.
Read on for some of the most notable discoveries, as well as insights from our team’s resident health and wellness expert, midwife Lauren Zielinski (MSN, CNM), for those who are find a way to break the drought.
Blood pressure and stress levels can increase
In this case, what goes down must eventually come – especially if you’re not getting the regular release of endorphins that sex provides. Fortunately, there are other positive ways to achieve the same results. Consider substituting healthy, cardio-boosting exercises for sessions between sheets.
If stress continues to torment you, consider Zielinski’s advice: “If you’re feeling really overwhelmed, super busy and never had any interest in sex and want to change that, then it’s time to change that. It’s time to activate your self-care protection. Consider dropping one or two unimportant commitments or activities, put “my time” on your calendar, and remember that you can say no to everything. Take time to relax and take care of yourself.”
For those going through menopause, the vaginal canal can tighten
As if menopause wasn’t fun enough, now you have to worry about the condition of your vaginal canal. Board-certified OB/GYN doctor Lucky Sekhon, explained to Well + Good that when not having regular sex for long periods of time, the vaginal canal can constrict, “which can lead to thinning of vaginal tissue. and easy to tear [and] bleeding during sex”.
This statement echoes an idea I heard last month during a call with Dr Macrene Alexiades on the topic of upcoming health and beauty trends. While expecting great strides in vaginal rejuvenation, she stressed that the best way to maintain the vaginal lining is to have sex or masturbate regularly.
And since the myth that painful sex is completely normal is something we want to leave behind, consider a natural lubricant if things don’t feel more comfortable.
It may become harder to turn on
Like many other things, sexual desire in general obeys the law of inertia: a person who has sex will continue to have sex, while a person who is not having sex may no longer have it. again. “For some people, this will result in it becoming harder to activate, even if you wanted to,” Carol Queen, PhD, sexologist tells Well + Good.
That may sound a little scary, but the main takeaways from this small 2014 study published in Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality is that? longing because sex can affect quality of sex. Maintaining your love and desire for regular sex can be crucial to the overall experience.
Let’s talk (More) about sex
There are many reasons — all perfectly normal — why we might experience a dry spell. Some people are also never sexually aroused. But if you feel like you’re in a drunk you want to get out of, check out Zielinski’s guide to boosting your sex drive (which contains some surprising ideas), her thoughts on time to consider sex therapy and even meditation before sex.